Author: The Black Sheep Survives

• walking on eggshells

  

  Whenever I would try to hold on to a relationship, I would feel the tense air. This the time where it becomes full of uncertainty: the walking on egg shells period. Every offspring of a narcissist knows and feels the tension escalate. We can sense it in the air getting thicker. At first, we forgive and…

  The Black Sheep Survives

  August 3, 2017

  Narcissism

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• Taking your happy back

  

  Dealing with the hurt day in and day out takes its toll. As much as it’s important to workout the issues to evolve, it is important to self care. Self care is imperative to healing. – I found that taking the time to light candles for aromatherapy changes the energy in my home. -I practice…

  The Black Sheep Survives

  August 1, 2017

  Self Care

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• Guilt

  

  Last night I encountered feelings of guilt out of nowhere. Here I was getting ready for bed and a rush of guilt crossed my mind. I felt anxious and ill thinking all these thoughts. “Am I doing the right thing?” “Good people don’t act this way.” “Why am I exposing the abuse?” ‘It should be…

  The Black Sheep Survives

  July 29, 2017

  emotions

  Abuse, abusive, acon, adult children of narcissistic parents, black sheep, conflict, control, controlling, cycle of abuse, cycleofabuse, cyclical, domestic violence, dv, emotional abuse, emotions, family, flying monkey, flying monkeys, forgotten child, gaslight, golden child, goldenchild, guilt, help, judging, judgment, manipulate, manipulative, mental abuse, narc, Narcissism, narcissist, narcissistic supply, narcissists, neglect, NM, NPD, parents, pawns, power, redflag, reinforcement, relationship, relationships, resentment, scapegoat, self-help, selfish, Stockholm syndrome, supply, support, the black sheep, therapy, toxic, triangulate, triangulation, violence

• Flying Monkeys

  

  In my experience regarding flying monkeys, they never come at an expected time. They always show up when you least expect it. Flying monkeys are people who like to create havoc in your life intentionally or unintentionally. I mentioned intentionally because some are fully aware of the abuse committed against you. Some are unaware and do…

  The Black Sheep Survives

  July 25, 2017

  Narcissism

  Abuse, abusive, acon, adult children of narcissistic parents, black sheep, conflict, control, controlling, cycle of abuse, cycleofabuse, cyclical, domestic violence, dv, emotional abuse, emotions, family, flying monkey, flying monkeys, forgotten child, gaslight, golden child, goldenchild, help, judging, judgment, manipulate, manipulative, mental abuse, narc, Narcissism, narcissist, narcissistic supply, narcissists, neglect, NM, NPD, parents, pawns, power, redflag, reinforcement, relationship, relationships, resentment, scapegoat, self-help, selfish, supply, support, the black sheep, therapy, toxic, triangulate, triangulation, violence

• triangulation

  

  Imagine having a difficult conflict with a sibling. The conflict escalates to the point where both parties insult each other and hang up. Then it’s a race to call their narcissist parent because whoever tells them the story first wins their support. Here is how this game works: Caller A retells the story to their…

  The Black Sheep Survives

  July 10, 2017

  triangulation

  Abuse, abusive, acon, adult children of narcissistic parents, conflict, control, controlling, cycle of abuse, cycleofabuse, cyclical, domestic violence, dv, emotional abuse, emotions, family, flying monkeys, forgotten child, gaslight, golden child, goldenchild, help, judging, judgment, manipulate, manipulative, mental abuse, narc, Narcissism, narcissist, narcissistic supply, narcissists, neglect, NM, NPD, parents, pawns, power, redflag, reinforcement, relationship, relationships, resentment, scapegoat, self-help, selfish, supply, support, therapy, toxic, triangulate, triangulation, violence